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March 10, 2010

Psalm 133:1 How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity!

God’s Word offers us insight and help in the midst of our arguments and quarreling.  If we apply his wisdom we can enjoy the good and pleasant environment that living in unity can bring.

  • Go to God with the real Issue

James 4:1-2  What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God.

This scripture is so true… how often have I quarreled with someone about things that aren’t even the real issue?   Sadly, the answer is too often.

There are battles going on inside of us.  God knows us very well.  He sees the internal battles we have and He is very aware of our true needs.  God is the source of our comfort.  He can fill us.  He can meet our need.  This scripture reminds us that we don’t have because we do not ask God. 

If we will just take the time to go to God with the real issues raging in heart, we can often avoid useless conflicts and arguments.

  • The are No Sides… Only One God

Ephesians 4:2-6 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit—just as you were called to one hope when you were called— one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.

Arguments are usually about opinions.  We want our opinion to be understood.  When different opinions present themselves they become an opposing side.  One opinion verses the other opinion.  One side verses the other side.  But God clearly tells us that there is only One Hope, One Lord, One Faith, One Baptism, One God and Father of all, over all, through and in all.   God is trying to help us to understand that there are no sides there is only One God over, through and in all of us. 

When we begin to understand that God loves all of us equally and there truly are no sides, we can see that quarreling with others is in a way, quarreling with God.  

Instead of arguing, God tells us to make every effort to be humble, gentle, patient and loving, keeping the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 

At times, this is much easier said than done.  In fact for me, in my own strength, I would say it is nearly impossible… however with the strength of the Holy Spirit nothing is impossible and actually quite doable.   His Spirit gives us the grace to forgive, the patience to listen to someone else’s opinion, a gentle answer to respond with and the perspective of peace and unity. 

  • Avoid Foolish and Godless Chatter

2 Timothy 2
Vs. 14 – Keep reminding them of these things. Warn them before God against quarreling about words; it is of no value, and only ruins those who listen.

Vs. 16 – Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.

Vs. 23 & 24 – Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels. And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful.

Our words are powerful.  They are the fuel for our arguments and quarrels.  God’s wisdom for us is to avoid foolish and Godless talk.  Gossip, harsh criticism and silly disagreements will definitely produce quarrels and division.  Choosing not to have anything to do with this kind of conversation can help us keep unity and produce a good and pleasant living atmosphere. 

May the Holy Spirit of God help us all to avoid arguments and pursue unity through the bond of peace more and more.

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